It feels hard because trust isn’t just about liking someone—it’s about consistency over time. And a lot of what shapes trust today makes that process slower and more complicated than it used to be.
For one, people are more guarded. Many have been burned before—by friends, relationships, or even family—so they protect themselves by holding back. That can make early friendships feel surface-level or uncertain.
There’s also the way we connect now. Apps and social media make it easy to meet people, but harder to really know them. You can interact a lot without ever seeing how someone handles conflict, honesty, or responsibility—the things that actually build trust.
Another piece is timing. Trustworthy friendships usually come from shared experiences over time—working together, going through tough moments, showing up consistently. That doesn’t happen instantly, and it can’t really be rushed.
And honestly, not everyone is equally reliable. Some people mean well but aren’t consistent. Others avoid accountability. So part of what you’re feeling is just the reality that truly trustworthy people are rarer—and that’s actually a good thing, because it makes those friendships more meaningful when you find them.
One important shift that can help: instead of asking “Can I trust them?” right away, it can be more useful to ask, “Do their actions match their words over time?” Trust builds in patterns, not promises.
If you want, tell me what you’ve been experiencing—I can help you spot red flags or signs someone is worth trusting.
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